Mid life transition is a “genetic” change that takes place within men as they move from a competitive nature to that of a wise elder who now becomes the teacher of life. It ought to be treated similar to that of a birthday and celebrated for the wonderful achievement it is. The Indians and indigenous tribes or ancient ones of the past celebrated and honored those who entered into the wise elder stage of life. The signs were clear to others.

I believe that the Great Spirit made this possible so we can teach our younger males about the wiser aspects of life and make the journey easy for them. Sadly this knowledge has been evaporated since the industrial age or even earlier due to mans control or fear of losing control. It is also for the men to prepare themselves for the less competitive period of our lives. The point of it is for a man to reassess all that has happened to him in the first half of life. This usually begins at 38-40 and usually finishes around 48-50 years of age. The ancients believe the high point is at age 44 {A deeply Spiritual number}. This means everything that has been in your life from Love, sex, woman, work, anger, achievements, appearance, sport, leisure activities, his treatment of people and his imprinting

He confronts his failings, his lack of achievements and his regrets and analyses what he can do about addressing them. For most it is about forgiveness, acceptance, letting go of anger, hurt, compassion and love. And I mean inner self-love. When he has completed this inner diagnostic he moves on to leader or elder status. He is at peace within himself and has gained knowledge of the workings of his ego. He is at a stage where he at last is driving his own bus.

The Journey to Elderhood is not representative of age, more the learning’s of life and of what works and what doesn’t work in our lives. It is an acknowledgement of inner wisdom that a man can now share with the tribe or community. It only happens when he has fully accepted who he now is or has become. I believe this takes 7 years from first inner realization to acceptance of the new wiser soul.

For many the fear of this deep look at self is too much and men we can go into denial and ignore or mentally justify many issues about themselves that they will not address. I have known many men who call this bullshit, which is really no more than their fear to address and acknowledge the past for both good and bad lessons. A fear that it will be seen by others that he can’t cope and has lost the plot. To look at “What is working and what is not working” in our lives means changes and that can be like a leap into the black abyss.

The word depression is thrown around at great lengths to describe a man’s mid life transition or someone’s feeling in today’s life. Whether you have had a bad day or feeling a bit ill, the word depression seems to be bandied around by all and sundry.

My belief is that depression is nothing more than being out of alignment to your soul or your soul purpose in life. In other words……... What did you come here for? And how come you are no longer on purpose?

When we arrive on this planet, we all have a purpose to achieve and a list of things we wish to experience. Somehow we loose track of those either by temptation or ignorance and we need to get back on track. My belief is that when we are off track too far and are finding it hard to come back to our purpose, we get depressed. We think we will never make it home. This is just our body telling us we are no longer functioning the way we agreed to when we agreed to come back for this incarnation.

It is a warning to recapture our balance being the Mental, Physical, Spiritual and emotional. This is the hard part and this where you need a skilled ELDER to guide you through the mire of options.

Reminder: Depression is not necessarily a mental illness. Anyone, who has not been through it, has no right to pass judgment on you, as they have no idea how it feels.

Do you want to risk not doing it?

There is a belief that “I didn’t learn it at school so it can’t be important or even real”. We need to remember that school is about mental education and not emotional or spiritual in our western world. There is much in our world that isn’t taught at school. Mid Life knowledge seems to have disappeared along with Spirituality in our Western world. However, have no doubt, it is very real.

Regretfully I have known too many men who die in there 50’s and 60’s because of alcoholism, cancer, lung and heart disease and are generally bitter angry men. It is a tragedy when a good, healthy life has beckoned and they miss out on years of fun with their partners, children and grandchildren because of a fear of change. We must remember that it is only … A change of attitude, an acceptance of the new self and perception of your new role in life.

We also need to remember that we are not doing a complete make over of our lives. We are just putting to bed the events, the achievements, the lessons, the successes and failures of the first half of our lives. This is a small percentage of our lives however it is by far the most important percentage. The failures as we may refer to them are not really that. They are more attempts to do things that didn’t work with the attitude we had at the time and now accepting or making changes to the way we will do them in the future. We regularly do this throughout our lives and this is just a more comprehensive look at ourselves. We are only changing perspective, which will result in our behavior becoming wiser and these changes will makes us more content in the future.

What will I be in the end?     Trust me …….

“Absolutely wonderful” is the answer.